The Last Hurrah
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IMDB rating: 7.40 Plot: An aging politician tries to get re-elected one last time in the changing world of the 1950s when TV started to play a bigger part in politics. Based loosely on the career of multi-term Boston Mayor James Michael Curley, this film examines the good and evil inherent in politics and all the things that go into an election. Tracy’s uphill battle to stay in office is set against the political machinery that preyed on ethnic hatred and old-time money. |
Actors: Tracy Spencer,Hunter Jeffrey,O’Brien Pat,Rathbone Basil,Crisp Donald,Gleason James,Brophy Edward,Carradine John,Bouchey Willis,Ruysdael Basil,Cortez Ricardo,Ford Wallace,McHugh Frank,Young Carleton,Drama,
When wives get pregnant, is it common for the husband…?
To quit drinking as well? Would it be reasonable to expect my husband to cut down on the drinking and partying on weekends since I can no longer do these things? I think he’s treating this like his last hurrah before he really has to settle down (doesn’t help that it’s the holidays and a lot of friends and family are coming around). But it’s tough for me to sit at home, exhausted while he goes out.
Ideas?
Ah Kate, I feel your pain. When we found out I was pregnant this time around my husband said he was going to stop drinking - in an effort to support me. That lasted 3 days. Now I think he’s drinking more than he did before I got pregnant - I think he took that joke about drinking for both of us seriously.
A lot of guys support their wives by changing their lifestyles along with her. It can be really tough to not only have to change your life style with no warning but to have all of the pregnancy symptoms and changes going on at the same time. All the while, you watch the person closest to you live life as normal. Frustrating can be an understatement at times.
So, as you have seen it written here so many times before, talk to you husband. It may help, it may not, but at least you’ll get it off your chest.
hepmom | Dec 09, 2009
Yelp it’s time for him to grow the f up.
T Ball Babe | Dec 09, 2009
If you put down the Crown Royal and start guzzling Blue, Ex, or Keiths, does that count?
Allison Had an Amazing Weekend | Dec 09, 2009
You know i never though of it until now. Me and my husband used to go out and drink every weekend. I got pregnant, he stayed home with me because i couldn’t go out and drink. We still have our occasions now that the baby is born that we go out and have couple time
0h Well | Dec 09, 2009
it would be very reasonable for you to ask i mean after all its his baby tell him to cut back on the partying and help with the nursery
Kentucky | Dec 09, 2009
I suggest that you go out with him whenever you can. You don’t have to drink, it gives him a designated driver, and you’ll probably have him home earlier than usual.
HHSDad | Dec 09, 2009
Have you explained this to him?
I know when my wife was pregnant the first time, I didn’t "get" that she didn’t feel comfortable in her own body and didn’t understand why she didn’t want to be the main attraction for the strip show for the boys at the office.
Who knew?
Acquiescent | Dec 09, 2009
Whatever, bitches. You’re the ones that are pregnant, not us. We NEED alcohol to deal with how annoying all of you are when pregnant.
INTERNET HATE MACHINE CXI | Dec 09, 2009
My (ex)husband didn’t stop drinking when I got pregnant, he’d go out and come back at 3 am or call me to come pick him up, even when I was having trouble moving.
Lots of my friend’s husbands or boyfriends stopped drinking when their wives/gfs were pregnant, out of ’support" for them. I think it’s pretty sweet. In my current relationship, if I ever got pregnant, I wouldn’t ask my bf to not drink at all during my pregnancy, but I know he wouldn’t go out anymore and would stay home with me cause he’s a great guy;)
Winter is coming… ah crap! | Dec 09, 2009
As a man, I have to ask……Why should he quit, when you condoned it all this time, before you got pregnant? You trained him and he trained you……you quit because of the welfare of your unborn child. He isn’t pregnant. It would be better for the welfare of your marriage, for him to quit. But, it is going to be hard for him to stop a behavior that both of you have lived for so long.
Also, he should quit so that he is ready and able to care for your child after the child is born.
Good luck with this one.
If it were me and my wife, Yes, I would quit out of respect for her and our marriage. I love her and myself that much.
Bobs ur Uncle | Dec 09, 2009
You shouldn’t expect him to quit drinking because you can’t drink, it may be nice but not realistic. That doesn’t mean you can’t go out with him when my wife was pregnant she would go to the same places I went. She didn’t expect me to cut back on my partying she just assumed the role of the designated driver and when she was tired we would usually leave.
slowsciwo | Dec 09, 2009
My husband and I never really drank much in the first place but now that I am pregnant he never ever has a drink. I have to say he’s a great guy- even helps with dishes and laundry since I am so exhausted when I get home and still have to walk 4 dogs and play with our 4 week old puppy. I can imagine how you must feel though. Have you asked him to stay home with you more and cut down on the drinking? I know what you mean about the last hoorah- my husband has been out buying himself lots of presents because "once the baby gets here I won’t be able to" which is frustrating! So I can sort of understand the "last hoorah" thing. I’m sorry this is happening to you, I would suggest you sit down with him and try to discuss cutting back and what you see as reasonable and what he sees as reasonable. I have learned that unless you are extremely blatant men just don’t get it and they can’t read your feelings like we think they can.
chelle | Dec 09, 2009
Have you asked him to stay with you? I think he should without asking but maybe he isn’t thinking.
David P | Dec 09, 2009
Leave him be, why would anyone want someone else to experience misery with them? He should cut back of course on account of time with you and be considerate. But if you really think about it, it really is his last horrah without thinking about the baby or the sitter or time! Women don’t get that, we get to experience pregnancy though! After the holidays and once you hit about 7.5 months then start with this, but until then let the man have his fun and suffer in silence or do what pregnant women should do and be the designated driver!
Courtney M. P. | Dec 09, 2009
I think if it bothers you you need to sit down and calmly have a talk with him and let him know it hurts you when he goes out with his friends to places and parties most of the weekends and leaves you at home pregnant and alone..I would not ask him to quit altogether, but to cut down on the going out. If he does he cares about you if he doesn’t I would really rethink alot of things about your relationship with him. And you should go out sometimes with him. You can go out and not have to drink. And with a baby on the way its time to do a little growing up that partying and going out everyweekends gonna have to come to a stop once the babies there..
youcandoit | Dec 09, 2009
It would be nice if he stopped doing that however I know several friends whose husbands used the fact their wife couldn’t go out and party to go out without her with their buddies or go to parties and get sh*t faced because they knew the wife would be sober and could drive home.
Bears Mom | Dec 09, 2009
I cut down when the wife was pregnant. She didn’t expect me to but I figured it would be nice since she would have been stuck at home while I went out. At the beginning of the pregnancy I went out more but once she got to the point that she needed help with certain things, I would make sure I was there to help her out. I didn’t care since I got most of my partying stage out by the time I hit 22.(I partied a lot between 16-21, I mean A LOT!) I am more of a hang out with the kids and wife and/or go to the gym. I know. Sounds boring as hell. But I like my simple life. lol
Tino {5} | Dec 09, 2009
Like another poster, he might not have thought about it so maybe you should bring it up to him..
….. I don’t want to sound like an assswhole but I think if you ask him to stop and he doesn’t, he’s a selfish little bastard. It’s only 9 months… But, if you don’t ask him don’t expect him to..
Eh-Lee | Dec 09, 2009
He has plenty of changes coming soon enough.
Give him a break on needing to change right now.
As much as I hate to say it this problem comes with the territory of being
chosen by nature to be the child bearers.
Note to Allison- I can’t get Ex here anymore.
GUY bein' a GUY | Dec 09, 2009
Don’t sit at home alone you look good enough to have someone keep you company
Jim | Dec 09, 2009
I thought if your pregnant you are the automatic designated driver? You can still visit friends and family that are drinking, last time I checked you can’t get "contact drunk"! Contact high and second hand smoke could be bad for the babby but watching others drink is 100% safe!
Good luck with the pregnancy!
AnswerDude | Dec 09, 2009
My dad quit smoking when I was born; my brother quit drinking and smoking just recently, and his kid is almost 4 years old. My husband doesn’t drink at all - I’m the drinker, and he’s the designated driver. It all depends on the person! Good luck.
Sandy Ego | Dec 09, 2009
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